Should We/Shouldn’t We? The Great Parent (and Kid) Drinking Debate

Should We/Shouldn’t We? The Great Parent (and Kid) Drinking Debate

The dad’s decision to give up our mild afternoon beer swilling unintentionally shone a spotlight on the unspoken focus of our playdates since our children had begun having playdates. We were pretty sure it somehow implicated our parenting and, if examined too closely, would show us to be frivolous, irresponsible, or even negligent in our responsibilities as mothers and fathers. Some savvy jokester’s well-timed mention of child protective services would probably have resulted in a few of us passing out cold.

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The Broad Reach of Bullying: How Communities—Not Just Kids—Suffer

The Broad Reach of Bullying: How Communities—Not Just Kids—Suffer

During the fall of second grade, Bobby Burk routinely surprised my younger brother, Danny, with a sucker punch to the stomach as he was getting off the school bus. Bobby must have seen the quick sock to the gut, delivered just seconds before the bus’s automatic doors shut and shielded him from retaliation, as an effective way to torment the new kid. Just as clearly as I remember my brother’s choking sobs, I remember how the cruel behavior affected other people, too—mostly my mother, who was angry and frustrated with the bus driver, who undoubtedly felt that disciplining someone else’s child wasn’t her job; and uneasy about calling Bobby’s mother to address the problem. I also remember striking Bobby’s older sister from my list of possible new friends. She was guilty by association to her brother, who had tainted our transition to a new neighborhood in Olmsted Falls, Ohio. 

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Death and the Grieving Family: Talking About the Last Taboo Subject

Death and the Grieving Family: Talking About the Last Taboo Subject

By some estimates, 10 million Americans are affected by the death of a loved one every year. So no family is truly alone in the experience of loss. And yet, we live in a culture that is loath to talk about death—either in preparation for it or in attempting to deal with its aftermath. 

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